Dasa 师父 is so cool.
He wears the usual monk outfit, sports a pair of 皮鞋，is clean-shaven bald (on the head as well as the moustache-budding areas), looks as young as I saw him 12 years back, carries a palm-top for organizing his schedules & a simple handphone for contact. His tacky tan orange cloth bag together with some other "unknown" equipments he carries abt complete his outlook.
Cant rmb whether he wears any watch but most likely he has one.
Ah~ the modern monk. I do ustand. Afterall it's the new era. Everyone's gotta catch up with the modern world. He's not excessively cladded anyway.
The funniest thing abt him was to intro us some tablets from GNC, saying it was good for the brain or something. Monks these days also into modern health & mind...?
Anyway, the following article I am abt to type is fr Dasa 师父. He gave me a copy of paper on tips abt self-esteem. I realized how true the facts are on dat piece of A4 sized paper & decided to share here. A lot of things that Dasa 师父 said may have been common sense, but how many actually do it? Facts & tips that Dasa 师父 randomly spouted may seemed simple & oh-so-easy but I'm sure the wisdom that lies behind is just too great to be ignored.
Here it goes:
10 TIPS ON ‘SELF-ESTEEM’
“SELF~AS~TEAM”1 It is important to accept the way you are.
No one needs to be or can be perfect. Perfection is not only impossible but boring. You don't have to work hard to prove you are OK.
Just relax about yourself.
2 Stop criticising yourself
Be aware of the niggling, negative thoughts creeping in. Those destructive refrains like "You idiot" or "Shit I'm hopeless" or "I'll never work this out". Become aware of those nasty jingles ringing in your head and stop them. The method is very simple, just tell that critical voice chattering away inside your head to Shut Up!
3 No comparing yourself unfavourably with other people.
A very common trap. You can't be someone else, you cannot have their experience, you have your own. Comparisons with others leaves you open to self doubts. They are on their journey, and you are on yours.
4 Allow yourself to accept praise and comments fully.
People are often much quicker to criticise than praise, and nearly all praise is sincerely meant. So when you receive praise just say "thank you" ..........
and believe that the person praising you is 100% honest in their communication to you
5 Forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Punishing yourself by reliving the past unpleasant incidence will not change them, so it's a waste of your time and energy. Non-forgiveness of yourself is a form of anger. Stop guilt tripping. You can only learn from your mistakes when you have forgiven yourself.
It is only a 'miss take', so just take two.
6 Give to yourself
No sense in beating yourself up. Be as gentle on yourself as you would on a child, your best friend, someone you love or a baby animal. Give yourself enough rest, nourishing foods, pleasant experiences, relaxation and love.
7 Search out and take responsibility for creating enriching experiences in your life.
Organise to see that film, read that book, attend that concert, meet that person. No good waiting around for things to happen, or expect someone else to arrange it for you. Do it yourself and enjoy the whole experience.
8 Value your ideas and interests, expand on them.
Interested people are interesting. No good waiting for others to approve. Learn to trust in yourself, and others will trust you.
9 Be sensitive to other peoples needs.
Be sympathetic to other peoples situations, but never assume responsibility for their emotions. Hear them out and allow them the space to resolve their own problems and situations.
10 Accept the range of variety and depth of your own feelings.
You are a very complex, amazing individual, so it's no good tying yourself up in knots attempting to hide how you feel at any given moment.
Hmm... I shd stay ard Dasa 师父 more often to 感染 his joy & wisdom. Maybe they will rub off onto meh =) He was mentioning there were some classes yeah?
And did you tell me your 师父 can create fire with just an exertion of his palm, Dasa 师父?
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